Last week at dinner, some of my "mom friends" and I got to talking about underwear. It’s all nude, black or white. It’s stretched out. It’s not sexy. It doesn’t fit right anymore. These were just some of the complaints.
Our underwear drawers have been neglected. I don’t know why we abandoned our little laceys—I for one have always loved pretty underwear and, really, after having kids we could all use a little inspiration in the bedroom. But with few moments to shop, it seems that moms tend to focus on outward appearances.
So I asked Rebecca Aspen, owner of Le Petite Coquette, a lingerie store that’s been in Manhattan since 1979, where to start when giving our undies an upgrade.
“First of all, get refitted for bras,” says Aspen. “The truth is almost every woman’s body changes after they have kids. Whether you’re bigger, smaller, or just different, the old bras usually don’t do the job anymore.”
She suggests going for bras that have a little accent, a fun color or a pretty strap that shows some personality when it peeks out.
“American women tend to wear t-shirt bras in nude or white, French women don’t do that. They don’t care if the bra shows through a little. French women aren’t afraid of lace.”
Her next rule of thumb: No baggy t-shirts to bed. “That is not sexy,” says Aspen. “Throw out the flannel pajama bottoms.” Instead she recommends a soft comfy pima cotton camisole and matching pants or shorts–something that’s pretty but that you’d be comfortable wearing around the house. If it’s too frilly or structured you won’t wear it, she says, and you’ll end up going back to the t-shirts. Aspen’s best sellers in sleepwear are Eberjey, Skin and Cosabella.
Every woman should have a beautiful robe on hand after the shower, suggests Aspen, and a garter belt, stockings and a push up bra in their underwear drawer. But the items that are really flying off the shelves in this sophisticated boutique in downtown NYC? Nipple tassels, lace eye masks, cupless bras and bras and teddies with slits.
“Thanks to the Shades of Grey books, we are selling fun S&M accessories to customers we never would have thought would be into them,” she says. “We can’t keep them in stock!”
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Nicola Ruiz is a writer living in New York. Tweet her @nicolaruiz.
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